How to find the perfect sofa

31 May 2016

Dear friend,

What does a sofa mean to you? To our family it's the place where we snuggle, read, play on the iPad, watch TV, blog, grab a coffee/snack, read a story, have 5 minutes rest, gossip on the phone, Skype with the family... It is in many ways the heart of our home. After 7 years of general wear and tear our beloved corner sofa had seen better days and it was time for a new one... 

I loved our sofa, it was really snug and I always took the corner place where I could put up my feet and sit comfortably with my laptop on my knee and one of the boys or hubby snuggled at my side. The problem was hubby and I could not agree on what type of sofa we wanted. Should we go for another corner sofa? Do we pick comfort or look, style or function?


Living room makeover Living room makeover
Our old corner sofa was comfy but large and dark and had seen better days.

Parenting from a Special Perspective: Rockin Random Mum

30 May 2016

Ever wondered what it is really like to parent from a special perspective? Parent to a Special Needs Child? Where do you turn for help? What challenges do you face? What has surprised you? What have you learned? Every month I will be featuring one of my brilliant fellow SEND bloggers and sharing their reflections on raising a child with special needs.


Michelle Kellogg is a blogger and is currently exploring the world of freelance writing. She uses her blog to inspire others who may be dealing with mental illness, have children with special needs, or both. She is a happily single co-parent mom, raising two boys, one with Autism, the other with ADHD. She is a rock music loving, coffee addicted mom, blogging about parenting Music, Fitness, and any other random thoughts that invade her complicated brain. You can visit her blog here:   You can also follow her on Twitter,  Facebook,  Pinterest, Instagram


1.       When did you first realize your child has Autism?

I didn’t realize Adam had Autism until after I was educated about it upon his diagnosis. It’s strange but my reference for Autism at that time consisted of a couple of newspaper articles I read in the 90’s about the worst cases. Adam didn’t display any of those symptoms so I was very confused and lost.

2.  How did you feel when you found out that your child has Autism?

Oh boy, a lot of emotions. My very first thought though was, “what did I do wrong?” My second thought was, “God, how can you do this? Hadn’t I suffered enough surviving horrific abuse as a child? Why are you making my child suffer too? He doesn’t deserve this!” Yes, I was very angry with God.

Silent Sunday

29 May 2016


Photography: Silent Sunday. 1 photo no words...





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Weekly Roundup #21

27 May 2016



Dear friend,

Welcome to my weekly roundup an opportunity to look back at the moments that have made our week extra special. I love the saying: Enjoy the little things in life because one day you'll look back and realise they were the big things... This post enables me to focus on the little things and see that even in the difficult weeks there is always something to be thankful for. I love capturing the ordinary moments and special times with my camera, looking at our life through a lens gives me a clearer perspective.

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Family Fun #18

26 May 2016

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Autism and us: How to handle Sports day

25 May 2016

Dear friend,

Sports Day, a day that strikes terror in the hearts of many a child (and adult) alike. I used to love sports day until I smashed my knee then I hated it. I could't join in and watched with jealous anger from the sidelines. I had friends who hated it and always pulled a sicky and others who were annoyingly brilliant. But it was always one of the highlights of our school year and overall I have good memories...

Big lad has not always struggled with gym at school.  In lower school they had lessons with their teacher in a small hall in school and he had no problems other than the coordination ones we knew about. But in upper school he had to start having lessons in a big gym with a specialist gym teacher. Gym became a nightmare. He didn't like the space, the noise, he couldn't handle losing... we had one very angry, anxious, unhappy boy. He started to have support from a Teaching Assistant in gym lessons and we got specialist help from physio therapists too and the situation improved.  But then came the question... How to handle sports day?



Sports day is different from any other day. There is no set routine, you have to wear different clothes, it can be held in a new place, you may be put in a team with people that you don't know, the rules aren't clear, it's chaotic, you don't know where to go next... Add to that the fact that you have motor skills problems and find losing a massive challenge then what do you do???

It is no wonder that a lot of autistic children can find Sports day one of the most stressful days of the year.

Taking the stress out of Sports day

  • Go for just the first part of the day or the end of the day only
  • Organise 1:1 assistance for the whole day 
  • Have someone on standby to help if needed
  • Have a quiet spot or safe area to escape to
  • Use a friend as buddy for the day
  • Practise activities before the big day
  • Make a visual schedule or a social story to explain the day's events 
  • Give them a job to do - scoring, handing out ribbons, tooting the whistle to change games, taking photographs, if/when they are not participating
  • And if all else fails... Let them stay at home

Autism and us: Sports day

Last year sports day went really well. I was on stand by just in case but wasn't needed and the big lad was happy and said he had a great time. With careful planning everyone can enjoy sports day!



Bedroom makeover - finishing touches

24 May 2016

Dear friend,

It's like musical bedrooms in our house. The boys often want to sleep together and my big lad has swapped rooms several times over the last few years. Having autism means that he sometimes struggles to get to sleep or that he is sensitive to noise so sleeping above the TV did not work at all (autism and  overcoming sleep problems). He also suffers from anxiety so being in the attic room didn't work either and he hated the sound of the rain on the roof.

The only solution was to put him in Little man's room, close to us. Little man has always been very accommodating to his brother's needs and relished the idea of moving up to the bigger room with more space for his toys and tent. But hubby and I did feel slightly mean and promised he could pick a new duvet and poster. His choice was Minions of course.


  

Little man settled happily into his new room but it was a real mismatch of ideas with formula 1 cars, Skylanders and minions all mixed together with a heavy blue colour and terracotta cupboard doors. It was time for a change!

Hubby got to work and spent the whole weekend painting. We went for white (white everything) to make it a light and bright space and ordered some fabulous wall stickers to continue the minion theme. We were really pleased with the finished result...

We love the little minion lights above the bed, it is so cosy on an evening during story time.

I found the wall stickers on amazon and the book shelf is Ikea Expedit (now Kallax) the boxes are really handy for toy storage too. The minion rug and duvet set came from Intertoys.

Fast forward a few months and there is still one thing that we haven't got round to changing yet! The blind...

Every night when I take Little Man to bed, I pull down the blind and I make a note to myself to burn replace it.  It is the same 1980's terracotta colour that previously matched the cupboard doors and is looking really tired. I think it's about time that I found a replacement...

I came across some great roofblinds from the company VELUX. I really loved the Disney and VELUX dream collection. Beautiful designs for kids and each one is unique as it is made specifically to fit your window. Maybe if we had gone for a disney duvet this could have worked but not with our Minions theme.

My preferred choice would be a Velux blackout blind especially as Little Man's room is south facing and gets a lot of sun. The Velux Blackout blind has a special heat blocking aluminium coating on the back to reflect the sun's heat. The Velux company had a great range of colours to choose from (36 in total) and we loved the light blue.

Little man loves his new room and has plenty of space to play when friends come around. We are really pleased with the outcome. Now just to buy that blind...




Autiquotes: Quotes about Autism



My aim is to spread a positive message about autism through my writing and to help my son to grow up in a world of understanding, compassion and acceptance.





My child went missing

23 May 2016

Dear friend,  

My tired old brain seems to be shutting down a bit at the moment. I find myself walking into rooms 3 times, trying to remember why I went upstairs and opening the fridge, only to forget why I am looking inside (not great for the diet either). I just about excuse these things but is it ever acceptable to loose your child? Keys maybe, children, eh, probably not... I have struggled to write this post but here we go. In honour of national missing children's day, let me tell you about the day my child went missing.



Silent Sunday

22 May 2016


Photography: Silent Sunday. 1 photo no words...



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Weekly Roundup #20

20 May 2016



Dear friend,

Welcome to my weekly roundup an opportunity to look back at the moments that have made our week extra special. I love the saying: Enjoy the little things in life because one day you'll look back and realise they were the big things... This post enables me to focus on the little things and see that even in the difficult weeks there is always something to be thankful for. I love capturing the ordinary moments and special times with my camera, looking at our life through a lens gives me a clearer perspective.

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Family Fun #17

19 May 2016

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Sex & the City: A window into my 20's

18 May 2016


Dear Friend,

Sex and the City for me is like a window into my 20's. It was that wild cocktail of sex, fashion and friendship that got me hooked from the first episode. The frankness of the women was something that I really admired. It didn't have the brashness of the girl power message sold to girls in the UK but it was showing a side to women and particularly their friendships that we hadn't seen previously.

The theme tune always makes me smile as it conjures up fantastic memories of fun-filled nights with my best friends in my flat. The nights we spent putting the world to rights, supporting each other through break-ups or celebrating our successes. Didn't we all have conversations about which one of the girls we were most like?




The magic part of the writing for me was that I could see elements of my personality in all the girls and wanted them each to be my friend. Candace Bushnell was speaking the thoughts and feeling of a generation of single women.

My top 15 quotes from Sex & the city...


"Man may have discovered fire but women discovered how to play with it."

“Maybe mistakes are what make our fate... without them what would shape our lives? Maybe if we had never veered off course we wouldn't fall in love, have babies, or be who we are. After all, things change, so do cities, people come into your life and they go. But it's comforting to know that the ones you love are always in your heart... and if you're very lucky, a plane ride away” 

"They say nothing lasts forever; dreams change, trends come and go, but friendships never go out of style."

"And finally, the most important break up rule: no matter who broke your heart, or how long it takes to heal, you’ll never go through it, without your friends.”

“The most important thing in life is your family. There are days you love them and others you don’t, but in the end they’re the people you always come home to. Sometimes it’s the family you’re born into. And sometimes it’s the one you make for yourself.”

The fact is, sometimes it's hard to walk in a single woman's shoes. That's why we need really special ones now and then to make the walk a little more fun. 

“I admit it’s tempting to wish for the perfect boss, or the perfect parent, or the perfect outfit, but the best anyone of us can do is not quit. Play the hand we’ve been given, and accessorize the outfit we’ve got."

“Maybe our mistakes are what make our fate. Without them, what would shape our lives?” 

“And we were dressed from head to toe in love, the style that never goes out of fashion.” 

“And why is it that we can see our friends perfectly but when it comes to ourselves, no matter how hard we look, do we ever see ourselves clearly?”

The most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself.

After a while you just want to be with the one who makes you laugh.
"Eventually all the pieces fall into place. . . until then, laugh at the confusion, live for the moment, and know that everything happens for a reason."

"Sometimes we need to stop analyzing the past, stop planning the future, stop figuring out precisely how we feel, stop deciding exactly what we want, and just see what happens." 


"Maybe the past is like an anchor holding us back. Maybe, you have to let go of who you were to become who you will be."


Which is your favourite quote?
Which program is a window to your past?






The benefits of a Staycation

17 May 2016



Dear friend,

I have just returned to work after 2 weeks holiday. My friends and colleagues have been away on exciting vacations or have visited family and friends in different countries. They look tanned and happy and regail me with tales of exciting things they have seen or done. Am I jealous? Hell no. 

After almost eleven years of living life as an EXPAT I have come to the conclusion that I do not want to spend every holiday travelling. I realised very quickly that I was returning to work after my 'holiday' feeling more exhausted. Travelling can be stressful, especially with young kids. I wanted to stay in my home, do nothing if I felt like it and have my things around me...

This holiday that is exactly what we have done and I feel marvellous!!!

The benefits of a Staycation...

Book corner: The Story Machine

16 May 2016

Dear friend,

This months choice for the book corner is a very clever book I found in the school library. It is called The Story Machine and is written by Tom McLaughlin.

I love this book because it celebrates the pure joy of telling stories and for the purist in us it also champions the simple beauty and delight of using a typewriter.



Silent Sunday

15 May 2016


Photography: Silent Sunday. 1 photo no words...



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Weekly Roundup #19

13 May 2016

Dear friends,

Welcome to my weekly roundup an opportunity to look back at the moments that have made our week extra special. I love the saying: Enjoy the little things in life because one day you'll look back and realise they were the big things... This post enables me to focus on the little things and see that even in the difficult weeks there is always something to be thankful for. I love capturing the ordinary moments and special times with my camera, looking at our life through a lens gives me a clearer perspective.


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Family Fun #16

12 May 2016

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Family Fun: Mouse Trap

11 May 2016

Dear friend,

Welcome to another Family Fun and this time we have a favourite game of ours to share with you. The big lad has been sick and little man has been totally lost without his buddy to play with so mummy was more than happy to step into the breach. We have had great fun playing lots of games to keep hm occupied. 

I have very fond memories of the original Mouse Trap. As a child I loved it.  We never had it ourselves (cue violins) but when I went to one of my friends houses to play she did and I always wanted to play. The little man saw this in the toy shop and stuck it on his Christmas list and mummy Santa couldn't resist. 

Family Fun: Mouse Trap


We have the Elefun and friends version of the game.


This is what the game looks like once set up - it takes a few minutes to get all the pieces in place. Little ones will need help!

The game is really colourful and includes the favourite characters from other Hasbro games, Elefun, Hungry Hippo, Giraffalaff, Chasin Cheeky (monkey) and Jock Croc.

It is a 3 player game. The coloured mice (Sneakers Mouse, Nacho Mouse, Pepper Mouse) are the pieces. 


First you must spin and then move the mouse to a colour place on the path. 

When 1 player lands on a boot and another player is under the net you get to kick the bucket and see if you can trap the mouse.




Watch a short clip of the game in play...


I asked the little man why he loves Mouse Trap so much and he said because he likes being the mice and he likes capturing other mice in the net. His favourite animal is the monkey. 

The game is quite fast moving especially with 3 players and the rules are very easy to follow. I like the board, the parts are of a high quality and won't get easily broken. 

The mouse pieces are really cute and also a very good size and weight for little hands (not too small). It is a super game for the 4-7 age range.

I am less enthusiastic about the set up time as there are a lot of pieces to put in place before you can play - little ones may get bored waiting so you might want to set it up beforehand. Once you get used to where things go it becomes easier. 

Also if you watched the video closely you may have seen little man move Giraffalaff with his hand. Giraffalaff is meant to move when the ball falls on his foot but the ball isn't heavy enough so it doesn't work and needs to be done by hand. In my opinion this kind of defeats the object of the game - the automatic nature of the mouse trap. I find that really disappointing. Perhaps we have been unlucky and it is only our game? 

Overall it is a good game which has the potential to be great if the little hiccups are ironed out.

Our family fun rating : 9.5/10 from little man 
                                       6/10 from me
Game age rating: 4+

Mouse Trap comes from Hasbro games. It retails between 12.89 and 24.99 (Amazon).
I was not compensated for this post!


Autiquotes: Quotes about Autism

10 May 2016



My aim is to spread a positive message about autism through my writing and to help my son to grow up in a world of understanding, compassion and acceptance.




Spring cleaning your wardrobe

9 May 2016



Dear friends,

Do you spring clean your wardrobe? I do. When the first ray of sun hits my window ledge I start to feel excited about having a wardrobe change over. I use the change of season as a good opportunity to sort out my clothes. I am an organiser; definitely not a hoarder and I love a good clean out, it makes me feel better!

Did you know that you only wear about 20% of your wardrobe regularly. I know I am guilty of picking out the old favourites like that comfy pair of jeans that go with anything. I regularly pass over trousers or tops that feel a bit tight or a little out of shape and hang onto things that I'm never going to wear again but I like.

Silent Sunday

8 May 2016



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Weekly roundup #18

6 May 2016

Dear all,

Welcome May and hasn't it started well? The weather has been absolutely gorgeous. We have been sitting in the sunshine in the garden, eating alfresco and enjoying being outdoors. It was fabulous to walk around the zoo without coats and end the day with roses in our cheeks and smiles on our faces...

Hurray for the holiday - it has given me a much needed break and time to reflect too. One part of me can't believe it has been 4 months since my hysterectomy and the other feels like it was a lifetime away. One thing is for sure I was ready for the rest...


Our week at a glance



#Family Fun #15

5 May 2016

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