One Moment in Time with Tina Medlock

27 September 2017

Welcome to one moment in time, a guest posts series, where bloggers share the stories behind special or significant photographs. This month I am joined by the brilliant and award winning Tina Medlock who blogs at Joseph and his Amazing Spectrum Coat.


Blending two families together is hard but blending them together when one of the children has autism, could potentially bring a whole host of problems.

When my partner and I started our relationship, we were aware of the need to tread carefully with all of our children and knew that having a new partner is often difficult to accept. They recognised very early on though how much we cared for each other and that has been infectious. 

Although knowing very little about autism, my partner’s children treated Joseph as they should have; as Joseph. They did make allowances for him when appropriate; extra time to process information, considered what he would like to do when we went out and made sure it was something he could be involved in. 

Joseph has always struggled with interaction and forming relationships but my partner’s children have gradually teased it out of him. 


The first picture was taken on our first family holiday, entirely natural and instigated by Joseph. The second one was taken three years later and again capturing a natural moment. 

I look at these pictures and I see love, patience and a strong bond. So much so that Joseph now refers to them as his brother and sister without us ever saying that to him and his feelings are reciprocated.

Thank you for sharing this special moment with us Tina. I believe we can learn a lot about how to treat people from looking at how children do it. I loved this post! 

Read more from Tina here... where she describes the autism journey from diagnosis to present. It is funny, tearful and there is lots of swearing out loud.

Follow her on Twitter: ‎@JosephSpectrum  or Facebook: Joseph and his amazing spectrum coat

Do you have a special photograph and story you would like to share? Then I would love to hear from you!


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#PointShoot week #25

26 September 2017

Do you love making photos of your family? Do you like to record the everyday memories you are making? Then this could be the linky for you. Come and share your photo story posts with me. You can share your days out snaps or any fun, special, touching moments from your week. It can be one photo (including Instagram posts) or a series of shots with words or without. 


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Week in photos #1

25 September 2017

Dear Friend,

Welcome to my Photo series #PointShoot. A look back at our week in photos. I love capturing the ordinary moments and special times with my camera, looking at our life through a lens gives me a clearer focus.










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A Glimpse into our Autism: The wrong seat

20 September 2017

Dear friend,

Yesterday we went on the bus. He took the wrong seat...

We don't ride on buses very often and as we had just decided to jump on the Park and ride into Cambridge rather than risk city centre parking we didn't have time to prepare him.

Boarding was busy and he asked where do I sit and I answered where you want...

He sat down on the end of a row so I had to squeeze past him to get in, instead I asked him to move up. He looked at me in confusion, he was right, I had told him to sit where he wanted!

It brought back a memory of us on the aeroplane and on the airport bus. He had taken the outside seat and his brother had quickly climbed over him to get in...




I swallowed my impatience and instead explained, when you take a bus, train etc you always sit in the second seat so someone can sit next to you.

Oh, ok I get it now, he answered, moving up.

Another reminder of how the small, social cues we take for granted need to be learned by autistic people.

When you're tired, stressed, ill etc it's easy to become irritated by this seemingly thoughtless behaviour. React with impatience and how does he feel? Like he got it wrong again. A failure. Unsuccessful...

Butterfly with coloured jigsaw pieces pattern with text
How alienating must it be to not know or misunderstand the things most people take for granted?

And how easy it is to dismiss or misinterpret his behaviour as 'thoughtless' or even 'bad'.

Yesterday we went on the bus. He took the wrong seat..



A glimpse into autism is a series of short letters that explore how autism effects us on a day to day basis. Disclaimer:  this is our experience not all autistic people are the same.

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#PointShoot week #24

19 September 2017

Do you love making photos of your family? Do you like to record the everyday memories you are making? Then this could be the linky for you. Come and share your photo story posts with me. You can share your days out snaps or any fun, special, touching moments from your week. It can be one photo (including Instagram posts) or a series of shots with words or without. 


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PointShoot: Cambridge

18 September 2017

Dear Friend,

Welcome to my Photo series #PointShoot. I love capturing the ordinary moments and special times with my camera, looking at our life through a lens gives me a clearer focus.


We had a long journey from my family in the North of England to the Ferry port at Harwich and decided to stop off in Cambridge to break the journey. It was absolutely stunning, filled with amazing buildings and a real sense of history. We definitely will visit again and take a punt on the river. I can highly recommend the park and ride system too! 










Happy Days!





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17 September 2017


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How I got my INSTA love back

15 September 2017

Dear friend,

During the summer I set up my Instagram account so that it would post automatically, twice a day. I followed the advice of some well-known, brilliantly clever bloggers and I invested in a service that could post for me whilst I was away on holiday.

It took me hours searching through photos trying to pick the best ones and at the right times, to match birthdays, anniversaries etc I had everything set up and then the company I was using started having glitches, some of the photos failed to post some posted before others so the pretty pattern I had set up on my Instagram didn't work. A note of caution, according to some bloggers IG doesn't like these services and it may even be against their terms to use them (you could, in theory, be banned).

Additional hours were spent sorting my schedule out and eventually I decided to move to another service which cost more money but at least worked. I was very proud of my set up! Scheduling was hard work but it played to my super organised nature and also meant that I had three weeks free with my family. For the first time in 2 1/2 years, I could have a proper break from blogging and social media.



Having a break made me reevaluate and refocus.

If blogging is your job, I can see the benefit of using these types of service. They enable you to schedule ahead to plan your posts in advance and develop the image you want to put across. Pretty useful when you are working with brands etc But blogging isn't my job. It is at least a hobby and best a passion. Why did I feel the pressure to continue posting with such regularity even on holiday? Well isn't that what all 'the best' bloggers do?

I must admit that I didn't lay off my social media all holiday, I was drawn to IG. To the beautiful holiday snaps, new babies and special moments my online friends had recorded. I was pulled in by the stories, the brilliantly put comments on the posts, the amazing shots ... I enjoyed keeping up with the communities, including  #MummyShot (the community I host with the beautiful Mackenzie Glanville) watching the feeds that I regularly join and discovering new accounts too.

I love the variety on Instagram from the picture perfect shots from 'proper' photographers to the hazy shots of parents enjoying their morning cuddles and the perfectly imperfect, moment in a mum/dad's day. There will be no blogger bashing here as there is more than enough room for all of us and this variety is what makes IG so Interesting although, I do believe that as a blogger there is pressure to follow the blogging rules and to do things right.

There are a plethora of; How to... posts out there that are devoured by bloggers thirsty for improvement or desperate to monetise their blog. In some quarters there is almost a blogger snobbery over how you should do things. Are we in danger of becoming a bunch of Stepford Bloggers?

Shouldn't we define success in our own terms?

I joined IG long before I became a blogger and the thing that brought me to it was the diversity and the instantaneous nature. The ability to record a moment in time, perfect or not and share your thoughts and feelings honestly, in that moment...

Gradually I realised that by scheduling my posts I didn't feel like I was telling our story in an authentic way. Rather, I was giving people a filtered version.

I needed to go old school.

I have returned to posting spontaneously, to sharing moments as they occur and reflecting on others from our week. To using Instagram as a platform to write, to share my thoughts and feelings rather than just purely for pictures. Now I feel more authentic, more me... and people are interacting with me more!




There may be some days that I don't post, as real life trumps blogging any day in our house. My blog won't fall off the parent blogger chart because I didn't post on Instagram for a day and if it does so what?! I may never be a hugely successful influencer but I am loving the authentic, INSTA me.


The biggest challenge in life is to be yourself in a world that is trying to make you like everyone else...




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Book Corner: Rumble in the Jungle

13 September 2017

My Book Corner choice this month is Rumble in the Jungle by Giles Andreae and David Wojtowycz


There's a rumble in the jungle,
There's a whisper in the trees,
The animals are waking up
And rustling the leaves...


Rumble in the jungle is a great way to introduce your child to the world of the jungle and experience poetry too. This is a lovely collection of animal poems written by Giles Andreae (better known as Purple Ronnie) one of Britains best known modern poets. This books welcomes you into the jungle with a steady beat and a wealth of great rhymes and then introduces you to some of the animals like, Chimpanzees, Lions, Snakes and Giraffes. The rhythm and rhyme throughout the book will really interest your children. You can engage with the text by getting them to guess which animal will arrive next. This is a great story to read out loud. The text is complimented perfectly by the bold and colourful illustrations. My children enjoyed copying some of the pictures afterwards and the children in my class loved reading this story, we used it in a poetry unit to investigate rhyme and alliteration. Then we wrote some of our own animal poems.






This book certainly kept the children entertained with monkey's with fleas, amorous Zebras and hungry Rhinos. And the pace and rhythm with the clever rhymes make it a treat for the ears too. Our version is a board book so very robust too.




Giles Andreae is the author of many top selling award-winning picture books including Commotion in the Ocean, I Love My Mummy and the international bestseller Giraffes Can't Dance.


We throughly enjoyed reading this at home and at school (year 1) and I would highly recommend it for both.


Our rating: 9/10
Price: 5.99

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#PointShoot week 23

12 September 2017

Do you love making photos of your family? Do you like to record the everyday memories you are making? Then this could be the linky for you. Come and share your photo story posts with me. You can share your days out snaps or any fun, special, touching moments from your week. It can be one photo (including Instagram posts) or a series of shots with words or without. 


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Point Shoot: A day at Whitby

11 September 2017

Dear Friend,

Welcome to my Photo series #PointShoot. I love capturing the ordinary moments and special times with my camera, looking at our life through a lens gives me a clearer focus.


This week's #PointShoot is a look at our family day trip to Whitby. I love Whitby and the boys do too from playing on the 2p machines to climbing the 199 steps and sampling the gorgeous fish and chips, we always have a great day out there! 











Happy Days!



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10 things that make me happy

8 September 2017

Dear friends,

I love a good blogging tag and I am always really grateful when my blogging buddies nominate me for these things. A huge Thank you to the lovely Laura from Musings of a tired mum for my nomination. 

Here are the 10 things that make me happy...

1.  My dogs face at the window when we arrive home. She stands with her front paws resting on the windowsill and tail wagging. There is something magical about her excitement at seeing us, I love it!



2. The smell of home when you first open the door after a trip away. There’s nothing like it!

3. Enjoying a glass of wine with good company. I love nothing more than an evening with friends or family putting the world to rights. Even after 12 years in Holland I still really miss my best friends and love it when I return to the UK and we have a girly night out or in.

4. Singing loudly to a classic tune in the car. I once got a round of applause at the traffic lights by a group of handsome young men.


5. The sound of my sons giggle when I tickle him.

6. The Beach - it is my go to place when I need a bit of therapy.

7. Looking at old photos - I cherish the photos of my Grandma and Grandad but also love looking at the photos of my family in the 70’s and 80’s with classic perms and bell bottomed trousers. 



8. Taking photos - my love of photography really developed through blogging and whilst I remain a #PointShoot photographer I would love to do a proper course and learn how to take better shots.

9. My kids being happy - Is there anything better than seeing your kids happy?



10. Blogging - this is my space where I get to speak honestly and openly about raising a child with autism and do my small bit towards raising #autismawareness. The part that makes me happiest is the amazing comments that I receive and the thought that my small space may be helping someone to feel less alone.


Please feel free to take part in this great tag too. 
What makes you happy?







One Moment in Time with The Money Saving Mummy

6 September 2017

Welcome to one moment in time, a guest posts series, where bloggers share the stories behind special or significant photographs. This week's featured blogger is the lovely Kerryanne who bloggers at The Money Saving Mummy. Thank you so much for joining me!



This snap takes me back to the 14th May 2012. Aside from having my children it was the best day of my life. I'm not usually one for being super vain but looking at this picture reminds me just how special and loved I felt on that magical day. I've never experienced such a tangible sense of love and happiness directed at you by all those you hold close. I honestly felt that I was walking on air all day. It was a day that dreams are made of.

This type of fairytale wedding doesn't come cheap, but being the bargain hunter I am I was determined to have the wedding of our dreams at a fraction of the cost. We found the venue that is the spectacular exclusive use Clearwell Castle in Gloucestershire . It would have taken us years to save to be married in a venue like this. However getting married at short notice and on a weekday can help you secure the perfect wedding venue at a huge discount. I had 9 weeks to pull it off and a limited budget but on the day you would never know it. Would you know that the photographer was a Groupon deal? That my dress was custom made in China for little over £100? That the personalised wedding favours were purchased from Ebay?

Being savy enabled me to have the most wonderful day, one that I will never forget.



So when I'm being slummy mummy, tired with bags under my eyes, scraped back mum bun hair, clothes on that lasted clean for all of five minutes before being accessorised with grubby toddler handprints, it's nice to look back on this photo and think 'wow this was me!' and remember just how wonderful and loved I felt. It was from this love between me and the Hubs that my two darling girls were created and for that I am extremely grateful and blessed.


Do you have a special photograph and story you would like to share? Then I would love to hear from you!

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