A Glimpse into our Autism: Secret

19 April 2018


Dear Friend,

Yesterday you asked me why I felt the need to tell people that my son has autism?

My initial reaction was panic and I babbled back a response about safety, openness, etc

Afterwards I felt mad, really mad!

I shouldn't let these questions push me off kilter, I should be a better advocate for my son and for myself by now!

I have always wanted people to see my son for who he is not for what he has.

I do not wear my son's autism like a designer handbag (as one psychologist has ridiculously claimed) but neither am I ashamed of it!



Having autism is not a secret.

Having Autism is not something to be ashamed of!

I never want my son to feel like he has to hide his autism or conform to certain rules.

I want my son to be himself, completely...

I can not separate my son from his autism.

Autism isn't an add on, it is an inherent part of his identity.


I disclose my son's autism when it is necessary or helpful.

I disclose for his safety and his comfort.

I disclose because I accept my son for who he is. 

I disclose because I will never be ashamed of my boy!

And yes, I disclose because sometimes I need support too.


Yesterday you asked me why I felt the need to tell people my son has autism...

I ask you; Why not?



A glimpse into autism is a series of short letters that explore the impact autism has on our family on a day to day basis. Disclaimer: this is our experience not all autistic people are the same.
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