A Glimpse into our autism: Love

30 May 2018

Dear friend,

Yesterday I felt the overwhelming depth of his love.

Possibly one of the cruelest misconceptions surrounding autism is that autistic children don't show love.

Anybody who knows my son knows that statement to be untrue.

When cancer cruelly took his beloved Opa (Dutch: grandpa) away, the depth of his love was palpable.

It was evident in the quaver in his voice, the leaning of his body into mine, his pacing of the floor, the gentle rumble of repeated words under his breathe and his dewy eyed look of panic and confusion.

His grief wasn't loud or angry, it was thoughtful and considered.

He needed time to process...



His love wasn't selfish, instead he worried about the feelings of others. He absorbed their grief like an emotional sponge.

I don't know if I can handle it if everyone is upset. It hurts too much.

He wasn't sure how to react but he wanted to be there, to support others, to stand together. To do what felt right...

Love is such a powerful emotion yet also the most difficult to define.

Love has many faces.

Poets, novelists, artists strive to capture the true meaning of love.

Autistic people are no different!

My son may not demonstrate his love in a conventional way but to imply that he doesn't feel it is grossly unfair.

Yesterday I felt the overwhelming depth of his love.

Possibly one of the cruelest misconceptions surrounding autism is that autistic children don't show love.

Anybody who knows my son knows that statement to be untrue.


A glimpse into autism is a series of short letters that explore the impact autism has on our family on a day to day basis. Disclaimer: this is our experience not all autistic people are the same. 




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