How to get your kids talking about School

26 September 2018

Dear Friend,

How many times have you asked you kids; How was school today? Only to hear; ok, fine, rubbish or receive a shrug? I think most parents share this struggle.

It is almost impossible for me to get any information about school from our autistic son. I loved this analogy I heard on a course for parents of autistic children. The psychologist described the autistic mind as like a filing cabinet, she said that there was a file for each topic, Home, school, grandma's etc She went on to explain that when school is over the file is shut and locked in a draw. 

Perhaps the key to learning about school lies in asking the right sort of question. 




20 questions to get kids talking about school



1. What is the best thing that has happened at school today?

2. What is the worst thing that has happened at school today?

3. What happened today to make you laugh out loud?

4. What frustrated you the most today? Why?

5. Did anything make you sad today? Why?
(Sad can be substituted with happy/cross/frustrated/bored/laugh/tired/excited/scared.)

6. If you could change anything about today, what would it be?

7. If you could choose, who would you like to sit next to in class?

8. Tell me one thing that you learned today.

9. If you could only do one thing all day what would it be?

10. If two of your class mates were leaving who would you want it to be?




11 What would you like to do more at school?

12. Which lesson do you wish you didn't have any more?

13. Did the teacher say anything funny/silly today?

14. Who is the funniest in your class?

15. What did anyone do to help you today?

16. What did you feel most proud of today?

17. What is your favourite playground game?

18. If you could choose 3 children to go out to play with who would you choose?

19. If you could set the timetable for the day at school what would you do?

20. What do you want you teacher to know?




I find that I get a better response at dinner time rather than straight after school as the boys have had some time to process their day. I also like to hang around a bit at bed time after stories because often my big lad likes to talk then and get things off his chest before he sleeps.

Why don't you try out a few of these questions and see what response you get?


Do you have any questions you could add to my list? Let me know in the comments...



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