The Autistic Scale

18 February 2019

Dear Friend,

I wish I had a euro for every time someone has responded to the statement, I have a son with autism with:
…but he's not that bad
…but he's high functioning
…but he's clever?

People with Autism are viewed by many as fitting along a sliding scale and autistic people are referred to as High or low functioning or as having mild or severe autism. Perhaps a need to quantify something is just part of the human psyche?

Autism charities and societies have recently started to use the colour spectrum in their logos. I welcome this move! Autism is not a linear scale. Autistic people can have strengths and weaknesses in different areas on the spectrum that is why no two autistic people are the same. Having the spectrum more in the public eye may help to reinforce this message. 

Mild Autism does not mean that someone experiences autism mildly. It does not mean that you can forget the autism. Mild autism means that you need to make some accommodations. Also Severe Autism does not mean that someone is of low intelligence. Many non verbal autistics were severely underestimated academically until technology gave them a voice and enabled them to prove otherwise.


11 February 2019

Dear friend,

Whilst patiently cueing for passport control, I watched priority travelers whizzing through their separate section. I kept the boys busy talking and handed out sweets. I was trying to keep big lad out of the crush and in a safe space, as much as possible.

Getting on the plane customers were given priority: disabled and elite members. We waited while people, who should know better, jostled for position with me my 2 kids and 3 bags. The whole situation shed light on my sons invisible disability. Ok he wasn't freaking out but he was uncomfortable, and exhibiting stressed behaviours; repeating the same question, pacing, fidgeting. What would make this better for him?

As an EXPAT we are regular fliers, visiting my family in England a few times a year. My big lad is used to flying and actually enjoys it. He has been flying since he was 3 months old. But, flying can be a very stressful experience for someone on the autistic spectrum. Especially at busy times of the year.

My son finds it extremely difficult to be in unfamiliar situations and in crowded areas. He has super sensitive senses and struggles with the lighting, sound and amount and proximity of people in the airport.

I don't want to highlight my boys disability. I don't want him to be given a high visibility coat or special card to wear around his neck. He doesn't want to feel any more different. I just want to reduce his stress (and truth be told mine too). How hard would it be to make invisible disabilities a priority?

Sadly many autistic families choose not to travel!

I have never considered myself a campaigner but after this difficult experience and spurred on by reading about changes made at airports in the UK I decided to mail Schiphol airport and KLM. I urged their care teams to begin providing support for people with hidden disabilities.

Amazingly my letter landed on the desk of a staff member who had an autistic daughter. He started a project, Flying with autism and in the last 2 years has made real changes for autistic fliers at Schiphol. He introduced us to the DPNA code (Disabled passenger needs assistance). You can have this code applied to your ticket and then receive assistance at the airport when you fly.

Write the letter. You could be the one who helps make a real difference!

#PointShoot February

4 February 2019

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